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Thursday, December 23, 2010

Wacky Wonderful Wednesday

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I decided to start a mid-week post to try to reflect on some crazy, or happy moments that just get you feeling giggly inside. It could be a crazy moment that you just wanted to tear your hair out over at the moment but know has you laughing. I really want to try to reflect the small moments that happen when we least expect them. I know I am posting this a little late and so I plan on keeping it open until Friday this way we can all hop along. Please be sure to grab the linky and if everyone enjoys this we can do it every week.

It was such a long day and my son had a Christmas play today. It was so wonderful!!! I mean spectacular and I cried. Call me a sap if you must but I have gone to many little ditties at his school and he usually is the kid all spaced out standing there while everyone else was singing and dancing. This year I expected nothing less but yet, nothing more either. I was happy to just see him up there.

I am happy to declare that I was really wrong. My son for about a minute and a half, sang out boisterously with a big smile on his face. He was a little off time but he tried and for the first time I saw him join his class in an activity. He was happy and while he had a really hard time standing there and he only sang in the beginning, but he sang, and that is my "Small Treasure Tuesday". Although that is far from a small treasure on my planet, it is an amazing accomplishment.

I needed to share that because it brought so many emotions up in me. I was extremely proud of my son and, although I don't want to sound conceited, I am proud of me as a mom. I am so hard on myself sometimes and this year has been really rough with the diagnosis, self injury, behavioral problems, and learning issues. Today, my son made it all worthwhile. These moments are my rewards of parenting. I love my kids and my ASD son is amazing!!!!

Saturday, December 11, 2010

Smile With Me Saturday

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Everyone needs a good laugh right? So here it goes. I cannot laugh right now without feeling really light headed. However I wanted to share my mini conversation with my four year old.
Bug-A-Boo ,"Mommy, me no go school tomorrow"
Mommy, "Why not?"
Bug-A-Boo, "Me have Belly ache"
Mommy, "Now?"
Bug-a-Boo, "No, today will be tomorrow right? Then 4:30 me have belly ache"

LMAO

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Talk-a-Holic

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Just pivot, I said to myself today as I was reading my daughter's report card. I am sure I have mentioned how hard it is to sit down with her and do homework. My youngest is breathing down my neck and screaming every time I try to offer her some help. Eventually I am told by my daughter to forget it cause she can't hear what I am saying any way. Boy how I wish that I had an extra set of hands to be able to help her and work with my youngest to keep him occupied. Regardless of that, surprisingly the flaw is not in the homework area actually the teacher had commented that she shows good homework effort. So, Where is the problem??

She can't keep her mouth shut for one. I knew that here at home but apparently she can't stop talking in school either. Ummm... I am not sure what to do about this. Duct tape??? kidding!!! She is talking so much she got a C in Art. I can't even see that as a possibility. This kid is smart and I just don't know what to do about this one. I can't even find the positive intent. I guess she could have been trying to be friendly or trying to help everyone else but umm... Damn this Mommy thing is so hard.

So, I am going to breathe and try not to yell and explain the importance of her schooling. I really don't think she will care right now but hey, it is worth a shot. I will also explain when it is OK to socialize and when her brain needs to be thinking with her mouth shut. I just can't figure out how to be positive with this chat. Any ideas or suggestions are welcome. HELP!!!!!

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Another Parenting Book to Try

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My sister bought a book. Not just any old book, but a book that was recommended by her son's school. Honestly, I am not too thrilled with the schools, so I really can't be sure how much I trust their suggestions on anything let alone parenting. But, I figure what can I lose, I will take the trip with her and attempt to survive another parenting intervention. I am not saying I am a bad parent but hey we all have room for improvement and I really don't like yelling. It is amazing how easy it is to do something that you totally despise yourself. I want to fix that and well, I am going to.

I went through today with the thoughts to remain calm and not to yell. I wanted to put focus on what I want to achieve instead of what I don't want. I think I did pretty good as I only started to yell once. As I heard my tone rising I pivoted. I turned around and said,"I am feeling upset. If I am upset I am focusing on what I don't want. Do I want that in my life?" This feels really weird but yet I intend on following the book Easy to love, Difficult to Discipline, by Dr. Bailey. As a matter of fact my twelve year old asked me who I was talking too as she gave me a really strange look. When I told her myself she just walked away as if she didn't even want to go there. She might think it is strange but, damn, I haven't yelled at her all day. I gave my daughter a hug and a kiss before bed and she took a shower tonight. I had a pretty good day.

Did everything get done? No, but to tell you the truth I accomplished a lot. I home schooled my four year old today and I even enjoyed it.Charlie counted to ten with me and we did some physical therapy with his exercise ball. We read books, did some music and played with Bullion cubes. Bullion cubes are a really great occupier for when Mommy is cooking. Just make sure that they are individually wrapped. They don't taste good but they won't do any harm if eaten. Best of all, they are a wonderful fine motor activity. It also works to do mimicking.(See what I built, can you do the same thing?) I think it is good that he enjoys learning. We also worked on colors and speech. All of that and I even did dinner, two loads of laundry, and swept the kitchen and living room floors.

I am so proud of my little ones. They are all growing so fast. I also tried out a virtual online school for Autism. Before I talk too much about it I want to really feel comfortable. Charlie seems to like it, for a few minutes at a time. I am considering taking him out of public schools and home schooling. I really can't decide because honestly, I am so tired I am falling asleep blogging. I am exhausted and also really sore. I wish I could say that I understand what the school goes through now, but I can't compare the two. I am one person and I prepare meals, give bathes, do laundry, clean house and now schooling too. They have many teachers working together to do what I did alone. I am not saying that the teachers don't do enough I am saying that the district doesn't give them any lee way to teach anymore. They have to program them. They don't have time to teach anymore and I think it is sad. Well, I am tired and really need to go to bed cause I am starting to rant and that is for another blog. Hey, maybe tomorrow. I will be posting a yelling log at the end of every post until I master this skill. Ummm... slight hesitation as I stated that. LOL.. I only yelled twice today and one of them was at the cat so does that count?